ry, [7 Mar 2026 at 12:05:51 AM]:
I don’t know if this will go through. I believe in resonance. I believe in the mutuality of resonance. I believe that if you meet someone and that you feel a sense of connection, of resonance with them, that there is a high likelihood that they feel it as well, and that you are not feeling these things in... What’s the word? Something like isolation, but not really.
Mm.. And I understand that this may be cope, this may be delusion. I myself have experienced much one-sided resonance, where I think someone resonates with me and the energy is not reciprocated. So it is a toss-up, I think. It is an instinct that has to be developed.
And of course there are caveats to this, where it’s like oh, you might feel resonance with a celebrity, but it doesn’t mean the celebrity is gonna feel a resonance with you. And you know, the caveats are that we have blind spots, and that the mutuality of resonance is oftentimes predicated upon how accurate your perception of the other is, & how accurate the other’s perception is of you. (sensing) So I think this is something that can be calibrated as you get older. I think I wasn’t very good at it when I was young. Like when you really like somebody but they don’t like you back and you’re like damn… Damn. I guess that resonance was one-sided. And like, that’s a very good case for like why resonance might not always be mutual.
But I’m inclined to believe that it tends to be. (Mutual, that is.) I think visakanv(?) has spoken on this before(?) but I can’t recall the exact words, … something along the lines of: if you really resonate with someone’s work, 1. you should tell them, 2. chances are they will resonate with you too on these highly specific things. (He articulated this far better than me, I will try to find the source eventually)
sort of like what henrik describes in his article, but from the other side… heh
But you know, perception is something to be developed. I think I wasn’t very good at it when I was younger. I think that... As you get older, you get a better sensing for both 1. what is [accurate] and 2. for the likelihood of someone [responding] to you and feeling the same way. And backing off when it’s clear that someone doesn’t feel the same way, and not investing too much of your time and energy on someone that doesn’t feel the same, instead of pursuing it like a stubborn little doggy.
Like, sometimes you want to be delusional about a connection and you pursue it one-sidedly, and it doesn’t really work. And lowkey, if they don’t recognize the resonance that you’re feeling, then... Then it can’t be real. Because if they don’t recognize it then there’s probably less resonance than you think… I’ve confessed to a person once in my life, and it didn’t go very well (I got rejected). Later on I saw something that was like “you should never confess to a crush,” that you should never have to confess to a crush. A confession is inherently kind of one-sided. I remember it said something like: you shouldn’t have to confess to a crush; if you have to confess, there’s a high likelihood that they don’t like you back.
Because the nature of a confession is that you are telling something to someone. But if you’re trying to pursue someone, and if it were mutual, then the confession wouldn’t have been needed. It can be done, of course, but it should already have been obvious (that you guys have feelings for each other, due to natural escalation). You know? Because like, I think it’s obvious enough when you like someone, and if the other person hasn’t reciprocated, it’s probably because they’re not interested in you. That is the unfortunate truth. If you were in a talking stage with someone who genuinely likes you and reciprocated, you wouldn’t have to confess to them, because things of their own accord would have very naturally developed anyway, and there wouldn’t be an actual need for a confession because things would just naturally escalate in that way because of the mutual interest in each other!!!
And I think that the concept of mutuality and resonance is sort of the same in this sense, in that it goes both ways but there’s also the element of, [you have to pay attention to how the other person is responding] and if they’re not really responding then you may have to accept that there is less resonance than you may think.
I don’t know if I’m being coherent about all this. I think I was more coherent when I was just talking to myself about this while making my ramen. (Don’t ask why I was talking to myself…) But once I turned on the mic (because I realised this was something I wanted to get down) it all sort of went downhill…
But yeah, I believe in mutuality.
And the spiritual part of me wants to believe in it, because I find it very hard to accept that I could feel so strongly for a person and have them not feel the same way. And this sort of one-sided resonance has never really happened to me again, especially after I learned about the whole mutuality thing especially in the context of confessions, and I think I sort of gained an instinct of when to step back when someone wasn’t responding and when to not invest more and… both an instinct, but also the sensibility to back off and not to pursue something that the other party clearly doesn’t desire as much, and to be mature enough and sensible enough to let it go when you’re faced with this kind of response. Yes.
what i’m trying to say is that: if you like someone, i think they’ll like you back. i believe in energy. i think it’s highly unlikely that you’d feel strongly about someone and that they don’t feel anything in return at all, unless you are highly delusional and have a really warped sense of reality. i think our intuition is often right, if you are brave and honest enough about the inputs and information you’re receiving. i think resonance is real…